Learning to Embrace Toddlerhood

by - September 30, 2012

As a mother of a very independent, outgoing and loud toddler I have learned a thing or two in the short time I have been a mother to this toddling little disaster. 
First of all no matter how well behaved your toddler is they will always throw a fit at the least convenient time. This is when you want to crawl under a rock and hide till they stop because in that moment you feel like your child is going to explode from being so pissed off. What have I learned from this? Well, first of all, when your toddler is throwing a tantrum, the last thing that is going to make your toddler calm down is yelling at or spanking them. I mean, if you are pissed off at someone, is them reacting to you in anger going to make you cool down? No. 

The start of crocodile tears!
The tears stopped the second he realized I was going to take a picture. He is already a ham!
Now I am not saying I am perfect and always handle these situations with the perfect amount of grace and control but I do try. Distractions are also my friend in these situations. Usually Ace will get upset and if we move him along to something more interesting he stops whining. If that doesn't work sometimes just letting the tantrum run its course is all that needs to be done. That isn't always the easiest thing to handle if you are stressed and in a hurry but I am telling you, these kids can smell fear, and will act on it! 
Playing with his friend before he later bit her :-(
Biting, hitting, pinching, pushing and pulling hair seems to also be one of the many "joys" of toddlerhood. Ace has done some of these to some of his little friends and I can tell you every time I felt like the worlds worse mother. I know Ace isn't a "bad" or mean child. He is quite the opposite. He is easy going and friendly but he is still trying to figure out how to get what he wants, what is and isn't going to hurt his friend and sometimes does things because he wants to see what will happen. He has had these things done to him as well and of course I understand that this isn't some defective toddler harming my child and the parents aren't going around teaching them its ok to act like this. It is a fact of life, some or most toddlers are going to have a time in their life when they do something to hurt their friend and to put it simply, it sucks.
He wouldn't let go of this Frog!
What's mine is mine and what's yours is mine! This is something I watch on a daily basis with Ace and his little friends. They all want the same toy at the same time. If someone else has it, too bad, someone is taking it from the other one. Toddlers think they own everything. Heck, I was at the doctors and I was giving Ace some yogurt melts and a little girl came up to me and tried to grab them from me. She probably has them at her house and just assumed they belong to her. Her father apologized but seriously? My kid would have done the same thing, I am sure of it.
Care free and happy!
I am not saying all of Toddlerhood is scary. In fact I love this age. My son is hysterical, lovable and still thinks I am pretty awesome. He even has his own signature booty dance. To be honest he is free entertainment when we go to parties. He loves to make others laugh. Its just a skill he already has leaving us to believe we are in big trouble when he starts school. Class clown, anyone? He loves his friends, is carefree and has a true zest for life. No matter how many times I want to pull my hair out or scream there are 100 more times I want to just hang out with my little guy because to me, he really is the most amazing person on this planet.
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10 comments

  1. UnknownSeptember 30, 2012 at 11:31 PM

    Its funny I just came across this post. I just recently was blogging about the same thing. Makes me feel so like a bad mama too when I lose my patience, but seriously, it's not easy :)
    Stay strong mama!
    GIna
    meetmaxwell.blogspot.com

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    1. BrennaOctober 1, 2012 at 7:50 AM

      Thanks for stopping by! I will have to check out your post too. It's good to know you aren't alone. :-)

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  2. Sarah @ The Not Quite Military WifeOctober 1, 2012 at 10:01 AM

    Toddlerhood has been such a fun but difficult experience! I've already been through all that you are talking about. But temper tantrums still are a nightmare to deal with! Thanks for linking up for Mommy Moments Monday!
    thenotquitemilitarywife.blogspot.com

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    1. BrennaOctober 1, 2012 at 10:46 AM

      Our biggest issue has to be the hitting. I feel like I am at my wits end! My friends all tell me it's normal and it will pass but it sucks. I don't like that he does it at all. I am going to definitely check out your blog!

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  3. UnknownOctober 1, 2012 at 4:28 PM

    Oh man. My toddler wears me out!!! I hope this fussy, mean, not listening phase passes quickly! Found your blog via the Mommy Moments hop and I'm following. Check out my blog if you get a chance.

    Sarah
    woodsfamilyofthree.blogspot.com

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    1. BrennaOctober 1, 2012 at 10:57 PM

      Sarah, he wears me out too! I swear sometimes all I can think is, you are lucky you are cute little man! lol
      I will go check your blog out too. Thanks for coming over and reading my post!

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  4. JelliOctober 2, 2012 at 11:35 PM

    My baby's discovered biting already too, much to my dismay. Loved those photos. Hilarious that he knows when the camera's pointed his way. Hehe.

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    1. BrennaOctober 6, 2012 at 10:33 AM

      He has always been such a ham and biting stinks! I hated when my son did it. I felt so bad for his little friend.

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  5. CallieOctober 6, 2012 at 10:30 AM

    I like this post because you're right - anything another kid does is probably something my kid will do at some point too . . .

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    1. BrennaOctober 6, 2012 at 10:34 AM

      Yep, I am not a fan of the "mean" behavior but everyone tells me they grow out of it. I still feel bad when he does it though.

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