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Last year I started a little birthday tradition with Ace. Well, two birthday traditions. The first one is a donut "cake" the morning of his birthday. We sing Happy Birthday and have a yummy breakfast. I also do a little interview with him and it's really fun to see how his answers have changed since last year. 1. What is your name? Ace 2. How old are you? Four 3.What is your favorite thing to do? Play round and round on my bikes. 4. What do you want to be when you grow up? Spiderman 5. What is your favorite food? chicken and broccoli 6. Who do you like to spend time with? Kayla and Ti Ti 7. What do you do really well? Play on my iPad. 8. What makes you laugh? When my Daddy…(does some weird monster walk) 9. What is the best time of day? Going to Disney is the best world of the day. 10. What are you afraid of? Nothing when I am 4. Last time when I turned 3 my bedroom. 11. Who is your best friend? Brielle, Ashleen, Gavin, Brody. I just love to do something with my Dad. I love to paint with him. I love to help him paint on my house. I love to play in the garden. Help my Dad grow flowers and I want to play with everything. (We don't have a garden) 12. What do you like to do with your family? Paint a picture. 13. What do you love to learn about? ABC's and learning alphabets 14. Where do you like to go? I like to go to Ti Ti's house and I love to go camping and I love to play at my house. (He's never been camping) 15. What is your favorite book? Tigers one. 16. If you had one wish what would it be? A racing one. 17. What is your favorite color? Pink 18. What is your favorite animals? Cheetah 19. What is your favorite song? The Wheels on the Bus go Round and Round 20. What is your favorite snack? Crackers 21. What is your favorite holiday? HALLOWEEN! 22. What did you do on your birthday? We to the Kerris wheel (carousel), went went in the cars, and we just forgot to go on the train. We didn't go on the train.

July 23, 2015 1 comments

It seems like the second women get married the first question they get asked is "When do you want to get pregnant?" or even "Are you all going to try for a baby now?" These are such personal questions yet people act like it is their right to know when you will conceive a little child. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't think people mean any harm in asking these questions. I think most people are just so excited that you will start a family and want to know how soon. But here is the real issue with this question, many women suffer from infertility. They also experience miscarriages as well. Both of these experiences are truly heartbreaking and difficult to deal with. The women who go through this can feel like failures since they aren't able to get pregnant or hold onto a pregnancy. It often times can be overwhelming and very emotional. I also struggled to get pregnant since I have PCOS and suffered a miscarriage before getting pregnant with Ace I know the feeling all too well. You often don't want to burden people with the news you are unable to conceive, struggling or had a loss because that look people give is often uncomfortable. So what can we do to help women through this? Or what is appropriate to ask? First, if you know someone is struggling to get pregnant or had a loss don't tell them "It's all in God's plan." or "It wasn't meant to be." this isn't helpful. Also saying "Oh you will get pregnant!" when a person has been told they won't is again not helpful. Just listen. Be a shoulder for them to cry on. Bring your friend some wine or ice cream and a comedy for a girls night. If you do find yourself wanting to ask that age old question of when a new couple will have a baby or get pregnant maybe ask "Do you want children?" instead. If they say yes than be encouraging but don't pressure. And remember not all women become mothers through pregnancy and giving birth. There are many other options out there so be supportive!

July 19, 2015 No comments

I get a lot of questions about my girls. One of the main things people ask about is which baby did we know about first? Did we decide to adopt then magically become pregnant? How did you end up adopting Ashlyn? I decided to do a series of posts on our girls to help people understand the 9 months it took us to become our complete family.

The Beginning This day two years ago I felt a little dizzy and funny. I realized it was the same feeling I had had before and ran upstairs to take a pregnancy test. I took the test and messed around on my phone for a bit. I went back in the bathroom totally expecting a negative test but saw two lines. I actually had that moment where I wanted to find the test package and make sure that was a positive. For some reason that positive test didn't feel real. It was two days before Ace turned 2 and we were going to my friend's house the next morning for a play date. I ran to Carters before going to her house to get Ace a "Big Brother" t-shirt and headed to her house. As I got there she was outside and I said "Erin, come look at this cute shirt I got for Ace for his birthday." She looked at it and totally freaked out. Erin, is my favorite person to tell things to because her reactions are always be and hilarious. The entire day she would look at me and say "I can not believe you are pregnant!" Later that night I put the shirt on Ace's changing table and asked Branden to give Ace a bath and put the PJ's I had set out for him on. I was sitting in our room listening to him go in there and look at the shirt. He was like "What's this mean?!" haha. We waited to tell family in person. I had gone to dinner with my cousins for Branden's birthday and put Ace in the Big Brother shirt and one of my cousins actually thought he had it on for the show Big Brother! It was like the longest time waiting for them to figure it out. We were so excited to be adding a little peanut to our family. Little did we know we would be adding TWO little ones to our family within five months!

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